Grief comes naturally during the death of a loved. Dying can be something that we fear. And just like anything that we fear, we eventually have to face it. When this time comes it is important to be prepared. Understanding the effects and consequences of dying can allow us to handle grief in a more capable manner.
Rando’s Six R’s can help you understand the stage of bereavement. It is a model that illustrates the grief process and how a person can adjust and cope up with the death of a loved one.
First off, the process of grief begins with the Recognition of Loss. We should be able to understand and accept the death and recognize that it had indeed occurred. A person can enter a stage of denial but he should eventually accept the reality of death.
The second stage deals with Reaction. This is an outcry of loss. Some people take death differently. Some people yell, curse, and even collapse. All of these are signs of emotions that naturally come with death.
During the time of dying, Recollecting and Re-experiencing is a significant stage. This comprises of the memories that we had with the one we have lost. These may be parties that you went to together, summer vacations, the holidays or everyday moments you kept in your memory.
The fourth stage of grief is to Relinquish. This is the stage where you should be able to put the loss of a loved behind you and accept the changes that it can bring to your life. It is the time of acceptance.
After accepting the fact that your loved one has gone away, then its time to Readjust and move on with your life. Readjusting may mean a lot of things. It can mean that you have to change your lifestyle, move in another place, or do whatever it takes to continue with your life.
Finally you would have to Reinvest. It’s like re-entering an entirely new world where you can begin new relationships and accept what has happened with an open mind. This is the end of your grief and the start of fresh beginnings.